I read a great blog yesterday. The author wrote a letter to her church, confessing that she is gay and although the church says one thing, it makes her feel another way about herself and others who struggle. It was very well-written and really touched my heart.
I think I have been given a great gift in the friends I have who are gay, and also in my being quite naive about it. I was able to get to know them and to love them as individuals long before I really understood what it meant, or before there was a “gay movement” or political activism on both sides.
In a nutshell, my personal belief is that some people are born gay. I think we are all born with strengths and weaknesses and I don’t know why some are given more difficult trials. But just as an alcoholic faces a lifelong struggle, I think gays are also in a lifelong struggle to put away their “earthly nature.” I don’t believe “being gay” is sinful, but I think the Bible is pretty clear that the act of gay sex is sinful and I think gay people are called into a life of celibacy. I don’t think gay sex is “more” sinful than other sins … but like all sins we must work to avoid them no matter how many times we stumble.
I am glad that in general, society has become more accepting of gays. On the other hand, in some ways I feel like it’s gone a little too far in practically glamorizing it; I think there are young people who will experiment and choose the lifestyle who otherwise would not have and who were not born with a strong sense of same-sex attraction as some were.
“It’s all about balance.” I don’t think we need to glamorize it and to be very honest, I know one lesbian couple who I feel chose the path, rather than were born to it. But I know others who were born gay, no question in my mind.
So what to do as Christians? I hate that gays often don’t feel welcome in our churches. Jesus came for the sick and ate with sinners of which I am definitely one. Why would I try to tell another sinner they don’t belong or are not welcome?
On the flip side, I hate that gay activists disrupt church services to make their point. I don’t think churches should change teachings to follow societal changes – if the teachings are grounded in the Bible, what “the world” chooses to do is beside the point; we are to please God, not the world.
Sorry to get so chatty … that was just a really good blog yesterday and then today’s reading in my study dovetailed so perfectly:
Today’s Readings
JEREMIAH 8:8-9:26 | COL 3:1-17 | PSALM 78:32-55 | PROVERBS 24:27
5 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. 6 Because of these, the wrath of God is coming. 7 You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. 8 But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. 9 Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices 10and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. 11 Here there is no Greek or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all.
12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. 17 And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. (Col 3)
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